Ok – but how do I let go?

I have so many clients these last few weeks asking me about letting go. They want to know how to do, and most importantly, they want to know why it’s so hard to do it. I mean, there are a lot of reasons why we don’t let go. Sometimes it’s because society tells us that things have to last forever. Sometimes it’s because we tell ourselves we are afraid of change. Sometimes it’s because we firmly believe that what we have now, or who we are now, is the best that things can ever be.

And… other times, it’s hard to let go because it means you become something or someone different. This might seem like it’s the same as being afraid of change; it’s similar, except for one glaring difference. Perhaps you feel so committed to who you are, because you had to work so hard to become this person!

It’s been such a journey up until this point to get to you: to who you are.
It was so damn hard to survive what you’ve lived through!
It took everything you had in you to make it to this point.

So why would I want to let that go?

This position can easily morph into feeling that if we change and grow, – if we let go of all that has been – we will be dishonouring our journey. This gets further complicated and twisted by our internal beliefs and programs about what we deserve, and our sense of self worth.

So here’s the truth: who we become in the times of stress & trauma is someone who survives the experience we’ve been in. And the person who survives isn’t capable of being the person who thrives.

So if you are here working to feel like you are thriving in your life, working to feel like you are living your life in the present tense, then we have to let go of the you who survived…. so that you can step into the you who thrives.

If you’d like to explore more ideas like this, book a coaching session with Michelle!